7 Tips to Find and Develop Your Unique Strengths

Quick Question.  What are your strengths??? You may have been told that there are always people who are better than you and there always will be. You heard it from your parents, teachers, and even friends. And it’s important to avoid the comparison trap along your success journey.  As much as you and I may aspire to be the next Oprah or Bill Gates we may never become these business visionaries. But, what you probably don’t hear as often, is that you are better than a lot of people. Everyone has their strengths. And even though your strengths may not be as developed as some, they will be well above many others.

  1. List Your Strengths

People take what they are good at for granted. It’s just something you do; it’s almost as natural as breathing. You have been doing it for a long time, and you don’t even think about it. But, if you force yourself to list out your strengths, you will discover unknown aspects about yourself.

  1. Others Sometimes Know You Better Than You Know Yourself

You may help others without realizing it. Maybe you helped fix their computers or  when they had trouble with their cars. Perhaps you helped a colleague organize a big event.

  1. Try Something You Haven’t Done in a Long Time

Think back to when you were in high school or college. What kinds of extracurricular activities were you involved with? For example, perhaps you were in the Audio/Visual Club. You knew how to work cameras at sporting events. You knew how to edit post-production to make the video clips come alive. This could be the start of a new skill, as you could apply this to YouTube videos, or your church media ministry, etc.

  1. Teach Others

You can’t teach something you don’t know. And even when you do know something, when you teach it, you will need to refine what you know so that you can convey it to others. Teaching will force you to dig deeper into the subjects you present.

  1. Volunteer

Volunteering has the advantage of helping others out as well as helping you learn new skills. You may volunteer at a food bank and learn how to grow vegetables. This may not be something you would have learned without volunteering. Some people who have a difficult time finding a new job turn to volunteering as a way to gain exposure to new skills as well as make connections. The Rotary Club, Optimist International and Habitat for Humanity are just a few service organizations that welcome volunteers.

  1. Lead a Group
    When you find a group whose members all share the same interest as you, put yourself in a leadership position. You will face new challenges that strengthen your skills in that interest. You can also put this leadership skill on your resume which can help you in looking for a new job. The group can also help you learn more about the interest. Check out groups at meetup.com
  2. Online Training
    If there are skills you are not strong at, but would like to learn more about, consider taking some online training. There are plenty of resources available that offer great training on most subjects. You can find both free and paid resources. It’s a good idea to start out with free resources to help you determine if the skills are right for you. If so, you can branch out into paid resources.


  1. Ask two people you know well what they think you are good at. If possible, have them write it down. This will give you a form of validation if you ever refer to it in the future. You could choose one person from work and one who is a family member or friend.

2. Revisit a hobby you used to do as a kid. If you played sports, offer to coach on a team for either kids or adults. There are plenty of adult leagues who could use a hand in some capacity

3. Commit to signing up and learning three online courses. Choose any subject you find of interest and don’t be afraid to think outside the box. As long as training exists, you can learn something new.


  1. 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live Them and Reach Your Potential: http://amzn.to/2rcof0U 
  2. The Resilience Factor: 7 Keys to Finding Your Inner Strength and Overcoming Life’s Hurdles: https://goo.gl/EJ1MHm 
  3. StrengthsFinder 2.0: https://goo.gl/XgTZFr
  4. Now, Discover Your Strengths: https://goo.gl/Hf3c3m
  5. Living Your Strengths: https://goo.gl/Z4kJ2w
  6. Go Put Your Strengths to Work: 6 Powerful Steps to Achieve Outstanding Performance: https://goo.gl/HQtdq8

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